I just caught this article today from Twitter from another middle school principal I know in the Commonwealth.
I just thought how perfect it was considering, we as parents (myself included) might be running out of questions to ask our own children, with the standby of "How was school today?" to only get a shrug or "I don't know" or "Good" with the "let's move on now" look.
The website for the post was: Simple Simon and Company with the link being: http://www.simplesimonandco.com/2014/08/25-ways-ask-teens-school-today-without-asking-school-today.html
Again, I hope you find the post helpful, for I did, and I was going to use some of the prompts tonight with my own two.
Thanks,
M. R. Geoghegan
25
Ways to Ask Your Teens “How Was School Today?” WITHOUT asking them “How Was
School Today?”
On Wednesday I posted 25 ways to askyour kids “How was school today?” without asking them “How was school today?” and
the questions came from a list that I made to ask my own children who are in
elementary school.
But all of those questions are geared toward
elementary school aged kids….and I started to think…if I think it’s hard for me
to get school stories from my 10 year old boy now what is it
going to be like 5 years from now?!?
And then I remembered that I know what its
going to be like. I taught either junior high or high school for almost a
decade and I get that communication with that age group is an art. BUT
when you get dialogue, engaged dialogue with a teen it’s never
disappointing, it’s guaranteed to be interesting, sometimes it can be very
enlightening, and it’s ALWAYS worth the work. ALWAYS.
So tonight my husband (who also teaches high
school) and I sat down and made a list of 25 ways to ask your teens “How Was
School Today?” without asking them “How Was School Today?”…in an effort to get
some sort of engaged, interesting dialog…even if it only lasts in that brief
time in between them texting friends…
#1. Where in the school do you hang out
the most? (Like a particular hall, classroom, parking lot, etc.)
Where in the school do you never hang out?
#2. What would your school be better
with? What would your school be better without?
#3. If you were a teacher what class
would you teach? What class would be the worst to teach? Why?
#4. What was the coolest (saddest,
funniest, scariest) thing that you saw today.
#5. Tell me one thing that you learned
today.
#6. If your day at school today was a
movie what movie would it be?
#7. Besides walking to their next
classes, what else do people do in the halls in between classes?
#8. Who do you think you could be nicer
to?
#9. What is your easiest class?
What is your hardest class? OR What class are your learning the
most in? What class are you learning the least in?
#10. If they played music in the halls
at school what would everyone want them to play over the loudspeaker?
#11. If you could read minds what
teachers mind would you read? What classmates mind would you read?
Whose mind would you NOT want to read?
#12. If today had a theme song what
would it be?
#13. Which class has your favorite group
of students in it? Which class has the worst group of students?
#14. What do you think you should do
more of at school? What do you think you should do less of?
#15. What are the top 3 (or 5)
things that you hear people say in the halls?
#16. What do you think the most
important part of school is?
#17. Tell me one question that you had
today…even if it wasn’t answered….actually, especially if it wasn’t answered…
#18. What class has the most cute
boys/girls in it?
#19. If an alien space ship landed at
your school who would you like them to beam aboard and take back to their home
planet?
#20. Who did you help today? Who
helped you today?
#21. If you could be invisible for the
day at school what would you do?
#22. What part of the day do you look
forward to? What part of the day do you dread?
#23. What would you change about school
lunch?
#24. What classmate is most likely to be
arrested, made president, become a millionaire, be in movies, let loose a flock
of wild chickens in the library, etc.
#25. If you had to go to only one class
every day which class would it be?
#26. Tell me one thing you read at
school today.
#27. If your day at school was an
emoticon which one would it be?
#28. What do you think your teachers
talked about in the faculty room today after school?
*****
Ok, so I know there were a few more than
25…but with teenagers…we all need all the help we can get!
Good luck with those teens and happy
conversing!
-liZ
*NOTE:
I don’t have teenagers of my own but I’ve
worked with my fair share of them….and one thing that I’ve found is that when
you want them to open up just sitting them down and asking questions isn’t
really effective. BUT, if you….say….trap them in the car…and talk to them
while you are driving…and they don’t have to make eye contact… they are more
willing to offer up more information or ask more questions.
This also happens while you are working with
them on things like making dinner, folding laundry, rearranging furniture,
etc. You can casually talk and ask questions without making them feel
like you are grilling them.
When I taught school sometimes I would make up
work project jobs to do with students that I was worried about just so that we
could have some heart to hearts while scrubbing desks or cleaning out
closets. It sounds lame, but I’m telling you, it works.
